Hi, This is Peggy Penny.
I made this website when I was working with kids at the local school district
who were being bullied on line by hurtful text and other tricks.
I called the website TEXT HURT.
TEXT HURT can hurt not only your feelings, but it can index hurtful things about
you on search engines like Google.
"Index or Indexing " is "A Systems" that is used to organize something.
In the case of the example of Google, the index is used to organize a search engine.
For example, Google uses the alphabetical and number "System".
By: The Alphabetical and Numbers are "how" Google search engine is "organized."
Let me list the things that have helped me stop TEXT HURT.
First, is the person TEXT HURTING you someone that you see at school or in real life?
If your answer is YES, than please read the list below:
WHAT DOES NOT WORK:
Blocking e mails being sent to your e mail account - Although this is often cited as the best option to stop TEXT HURT; The sender will receive an e mail telling them that you have blocked them. This can cause the sender to seek you out in order to find out "why"
you blocked them.
Simply not opening The Text Hurt gives you the option to document what this person is sending you, by having A Trusted Adult read them for you.
Please have your Trusted Adult read this article when you ask them to read the e mails. Then, you can allow your Trusted Adult to help you choose the best option for you.
Doing the "same thing" to the person text hurting you makes the other person more upset.
This usually makes the TEXT HURT increase, because now there are two people text hurting each other.
Involving friends instead of Your Trusted Adult can make the situation worse also. When you involve friends, then many times they want to be a good friend and they text hurt the person for you. This likely makes the person get their friends involved. Involving others who TEXT HURT on your behalf means that TEXT HURT spreadable.
We do not want to spread TEXT HURT.
Telling all your friends to stay away from the person. What this ends up doing is isolating the person. Most TEXT HURT is from someone who doesn't have many friends. So, this option is not best.
WHAT CAN WORK - What has been successful is to be friendly, but brief. When you see the person, greet them politely. Don't wait to see if they are going to talk to you. What you want to do is take control of the situation and ask a question. An example of what to say is something like this. "Hi, how's it going? Hey, did you see the new Bat Man movie that just came out? I liked it. I'm almost late so, hey, send me an e mail. Do you have my e mail address?" Then, walk away.
What this does is it tells them that you have not seen their TEXT HURT e mail or that it didn't bother you. It also gives them something appropriate to e mail you about.
If they try to follow you and talk to you more after you walk away, you just smile at them; but don't stop going away from them. If they don't stop following you then walk up to a teacher or another adult you trust and start a conversation by asking them a question.
For example, "Mrs. Gino, what time does second period let out? I need to call my older brother so he can pick me up today.
This puts the person following you in two positions:
If they want to keep talking to you, they have to do it in front of an adult;
and it also tells them that you are busy later and that your older brother will be coming to the school. In other words, you are never alone at school.
3:05 p.m. - 2022-03-12